I have naturally curly hair. Over the years, I’ve come to never expect my hair to do anything I want. Life is like naturally curly hair – unpredictable. You can’t expect anything … from anyone. The quicker you learn that, the happier you’ll be.

When you expect something to turn out a certain way and it doesn’t, that’s when we, as the crazy beings we are, get all upset. But, in reality, we shouldn’t be upset at all.

We expect that guy we met at the bar to call. He doesn’t, and we get all pissy. But, guess what … he was probably a shit head and we should try to look at the positive reasons behind him not calling.

We have one amazing Friday night, and then we expect every Friday night that follows to be that wonderful. It’s not going to happen … it’ll just be a let down.

This is what you need to do. Do not have any expectations. Don’t expect people to be on time. Don’t expect all your roommates to pay their bills on the first of every month. Don’t expect some guy to be “the one” after two dates. It’s hard to enjoy the way life unfolds when you’re constantly being let down by some foolish expectations, set by your foolish self.

If you don’t allow high expectations to enter your mind, then you won’t be all pouty and disappointed when things don’t go exactly your way. Remember, just because something didn’t go your way, doesn’t mean it didn’t go the way it was supposed to.

So, stop expecting, and start having fun with the way things are … in the moment … right now. I’m even kind of in love with my hair. Even on the bad days.